Nope. You don't have to be Mel Gibson in tights and nail polish to find out.....
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Respect - First and foremost. This includes the honesty bit and doing what would honor the woman in your life.....Remember the old saying "Do Unto Others"? Why does your girlfriend or wife fold your socks with a smile, press your shirts, give you a foot rub after a long day of meetings or makes you your favorite dish for dinner without you asking?????? Because she respects you......And you know what???? She deserves a bit of it in return......If she loves you, the favor will be returned.
Time - Yes the dreaded "quality" time. Do you boys understand that this means sweating it out at the gym together, holding hands while playing couch potatoes, washing the car together, playing videogames like kids, a beer and bacon burger on a patio, watching her or your favorite sport on the TV or even playing airhockey while doing so at the local sports pub? Phone calls to whisper sweet nothings.....a smiley text midday. Reading in bed together. Hell! Doing laundry together (this could be added to humor below, as well).
The Big "S"......Yes! It is a big part of the relationship for women too! ........Sex is important. Affection, touching, kissing.....intimacy. Whether it soft, gentle, passionate lovemaking or really naughty, kinky play........All important.
Engagement/Communication - NOT just Marriage Proposals.....Ok! sometimes that is a good thing. Engaging conversation and open communication. This means listening....talking.....paying attention....Had a blog about this once. Effective communication in relationships (like I should talk - LOL!!) When she talks, listen, pay attention and answer. If she loves you she will do the same. Tell her that she is beautiful....Tell her how you really feel.....Tell her that you love her eyes or the soft glow of the sunset on her skin.....Tell her if you are scared and why. Be open and....Oh Darn it! Here it is again....honesty. If a woman asks how she looks in an outfit and it just isn't right, tell her - kindly please. A woman who is looking for compliments only (probably not the receiver of many in that case) will get offended.....but only for a moment if you are kind about it. Don't get me wrong - women love compliments and too often men do not dole them out when they are deserved.
Romance - We do want it. Romance cannot be bought, though. Romance is the feeling behind the action that shows through in meaningful gestures. Romance has the element of surprise and whim. Romance can be a simple kiss, a loving gaze over morning coffee.....pulling your lover into the pantry mid day to make out, parking in a park and watching the sunset while holding each other close, holding each other through a stormy night. As some men I have witnessed: Daisies brought at lunch, brown paper bag lunches made and brought to share under the summer sun on the grassy mound, getting a babysitter away from home for the night just to cuddle and watch your favorite grown-up movies, and my favorite I always loved to do myself....lovey sticky notes in the briefcase or the suitcase. Romance. Not hard....Not expensive....Just fun.
Humor and fun - Humor...ability to laugh at yourself. So don't try the big ego thing. Gets old real quick (gag!!!!). Fun....being able to be silly together. Tickling....food fights.....bubble fights doing dishes together....Snowball tossing or making snow angels like kids.....laughing and laughing over silly cartoons or just something darn funny. I have a fond memory of winky and the pirate.....Still makes me giggle.
Nice Guys - Bad boys may seem like they have the confidence.....But it really is the nice guys that do and "do it" for us women....and the patience, love and loyality they are willing to share. Why? Because they are not too proud to be nice. They open doors and take the time to be personable and they care for more in life than just themselves and a quick romp. Girls may swoon for the James Dean or Brando types for a moment....but are eventually awakened by how shallow they are - no depth of feeling. The classic "Nice Guy" is what we really long for....sensitivity, caring, giving, loves family time, loves to be loved, not too shy to say that he hates basketball, has a brain (can form his own opinions away from the pack), and will give a girl a sweet sonnet (even if it is poorly written, but oh so appreciated and swooned over) without a second thought. Nice Guys Rock in my Top 10!
Flexibility - Not yoga....But that can be a fun activity to do together. Willingness to change or try new things. Simple. Jump in...Give it a try.....Get the toes wet a little bit. Dancing with your partner if you have never danced. Do a bit of the spontaneous. Or even be willing to go the extra mile (drive time inlcuded) for the woman that makes your heart melt....even if it is tough or just not your thing (at first).
To Be The Spark - She wants to be the spark....the fire.....the red hot ember in your life. So let her know that she is just that. How? By all of thee above....Or just holding her hand.
Finally:
Plain and Simple....Love. Women want to be loved. Love is a good thing. Again How? All of thee above. Those three special words, too....NO!! They are not "I gotta go" or "Turn the channel" or "I like math" or "Oops I farted" or "Close the door"......You guys know which ones.
Girls are not complicated. Girls like to be asked out. Girls like flowers. Girls like Boys. Just be yourself and forget the worry of being let down or turned down. Step in.....Live life.....and LOVE! Girls are not from Venus and men are not from Mars. God made us to enjoy and love each other - - - Share our lives. Let's do it.
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